5 Qualities of a Good Friend

There is an Irish proverbs that discusses having a good friend. It states: “A good friend is like a four-leaf clover; hard to find and lucky to have.” This is so true.

Having a good friends is very important.

They are the people that will influence you. They will be there when you need them. And they will encourage you when you need it most.

The Bible tells of the importance of having good people in your life.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!Again, if two lie together, they keep warm,but how can one keep warm alone?And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.“

It is important to have good, godly friends in your life. They will be there for you, encourage you, and influence you.

Here are five qualities of a good friend. There are many great qualities to look for when forming friendships, but here is just a few:

1. She is secure in her identity.

Before someone can be an encouraging friend to you, they must first be confident of who they are in Christ. Especially when forming friendships with other girls, it is good to know that she is secure in who God says she is. Instead of looking at her flaws or saying that she doesn’t have worth, she knows God made her beautiful and defines who she is.

2. She has a loyal character.

A good friend will be loyal to you. She will stay by your side when things get tough. Like Ruth stayed with Naomi when her life became difficult, a good friend will be there for you in the same way. You need a friend that will be faithful to your friendship not matter what.

3. She portrays wisdom.

The Bible expresses great importance about having wisdom. Proverbs 4:6 says, “Do not forsake her[wisdom], and she will keep you; love her, and she will guard you.” The character trait of wisdom is important to look for in the friends you choose. If your friend is wise in the ways of the Lord, she will help guide you wisely when you may go astray.

4. She is not afraid to speak up.

Proverbs 27:5-6 says, “Better is open rebukethan hidden love.Faithful arethewounds of a friend;profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” Not being afraid to speak up and tell you when you are wrong is a great quality to find in a friend. Friends that watch you fall into trouble or sin are not good friends. You need someone who will tell you in a loving way when you are wrong.

5. She is authentic.

Although you may not realize it, having a friend that is authentic is so important. You need to know that you can trust that she will not turn to the newest thing or follow the popular opinion. Just because something is “cool” doesn’t mean it is right. Having biblical discernment and staying true to her own style and personality is an important thing to look for in your friends.

These qualities were not in a specific order, but they each are important.

Not only are these qualities good to look for when choosing your friends, but they are also important qualities to look for in yourself. How could you improve yourself to be friend?

Choosing good friendships will be important in your life now and in the future. Be sure that the friendships you have are purposeful and honoring to the Lord.

In His amazing love,

Hannah Marie

How do you need to rethink your friendships? Do you possess these qualities as a friend to others?