You slept for maybe two hours last night. The kids are up early. Your baby has already started crying this morning. There are little ones begging for breakfast at your feet. Something spills. A toddler breaks a dish. Someone is saying “no” over and over. Two of your precious little ones are hitting one another. Here comes the mom rage.
And then you start to raise your voice as you are juggling all the things. Then somehow you start yelling, crying, slamming cabinets, and blaming your kids for everything that is going wrong.
No mother wants their day to look like this. But more importantly no mother wants to treat their children this way and have their home behold that type of atmosphere.
Isaiah 32:18 says, “My people will abide in a peaceful habitation, in secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places.” That is what we should want our homes to be.
If you have ever had a rough day with your little ones you are not alone. Mom rage is a thing I believe every mom has experienced at one time or another.
Postpartum hormones, sleep deprivation, poor nutrition, lack of support from community, and just the stress that comes with raising small children can all account to us losing our cool so to say.
But we have been given a way to combat that mom rage and be the mom we want to be. And that is with the Lord by our side.
Yes, it is our choice each morning to decide how we will handle ourselves and treat the little ones God has blessed us with. We have free will and it is up to us how we are going to speak and handle ourselves.
But God has equipped us with the Holy Spirit so we are not alone and can be the mom we want to be.
We can speak softly and have a gentle spirit. Disciplining doesn’t have to be a struggle. The overwhelm doesn’t ever need to happen throughout the day. We don’t have to yell and get angry.
Peace can flow from us and into our home when we make the conscience choice to be the moms God wants us to be.
God gives us the strength and help, but it is our choice. He gives us the fruits of His Spirit but we must desire to walk in them.
There are some practical strategies to help you stop the mom rage though. If you are really wanting to bring peace and gentleness into your mothering try implementing some of the following:
- get more sleep (if you can, I know how hard it is in this season…)
- eat enough food, especially protien
- start your morning calmly (maybe before your kids if you can)
- stop drinking caffeine
- lay off sugar/junk foods
- limit screen time for you and your kids
- establish a daily quiet time in your home
- diffuse calming essential oils
- exercise
- make sure you are reading your Bible!
These are very simple things you can do to help with the mom rage but sometimes you just need simplicity in this season of motherhood.
If you are wanting to find more ways to find peace and get your home in order for the Lord check out this detailed guide. It will break down how to help yourself be grounded in the Lord as well as prune your home to be covered in His Spirit.
